Jesteśmy społecznością, która kocha książki

To ty jesteś projektem swojej przyszłości. Wszystko, czym jesteś, czego doświadczyłeś, w czym jesteś dobry, wszystkie okoliczności, w jakich miałeś dotąd okazję się odnaleźć, wszystko, czym się pasjonujesz- żadna z tych rzeczy nie jest dziełem przypadku. To odbicie tego, kim jesteś, i zapowiedź tego, co masz jeszcze zrobić.

Może się wydawać, że tym, co wyzwala naszą reakcję emocjonalną, jest dany problem.
To nieprawda.
Problemem jest to, że nie mamy pojęcia, jak sobie poradzić z emocjomi, a co za tym idzie, nie mamy umiejętności pozwalających na przetwarzanie owych emocji.

Najbardziej efektywnym i najzdrowszym sposobem na zmienienie swojego życia jest działanie powoli.

Głównym celem każdego człowieka jest rozwój. Widzimy to w każdej sferze życia. Gatunki się rozmnażają, DNA ewoluuje w celu wyeliminowania pewnych nici i rozwinięcia nowych, a granice wszechświata rozszerzają się w nieskończoność. Analogicznie zdolność do odczuwania głębi i piękna życia może się rozszerzać w nieskończoność w naszym wnętrzu, o ile będziemy w stanie rozwiązywać problemy i postrzegać je jako katalizatory. Lasy potrzebują do tego pożarów, wulkany erupcji, gwiazdy zapadania się, a ludzie często nie mają innego wyboru jak tylko brać sprawy w swoje ręce.

Your mountain is the block between you and the life you want to live. Facing it is also the only path to your freedom and becoming. You are here because a trigger showed you to your wound, and your wound will show you to your path, and your path will show you to your destiny.

Your old self can no longer sustain the life you are trying to lead; it is time for reinvention and rebirth.

Sometimes, we sabotage our relationships because what we really want is to find ourselves, though we are afraid to be alone. Sometimes, we sabotage our professional success because what we really want is to create art, even if it will make us seem less ambitious by society's measures. Sometimes, we sabotage our healing journey by psychoanalyzing our feelings, because doing so ensures we avoid actually experiencing them. Sometimes, we sabotage our self-talk because if we believed in ourselves, we'd feel free to get back out in the world and take risks, and that would leave us vulnerable.

Your self-image is difficult to adjust, because your brain's confirmation bias works to affirm your preexisting beliefs about yourself.

Even though we think we're after happiness, we're actually trying to find whatever we're most used to.

You must first and foremost get out of denial and into clarity about what's really wrong. At this point, you have a choice: You can make peace, or you can commit to changing. The lingering is what is keeping you stuck.

(...) being "successful" doesn't really make you happy nor liked. In fact, the opposite tends to be true. Success usually exposes you to jealousy and scrutiny. Successful people are not loved in the way that we imagine they would be; they are usually picked apart because envious people need to humanize them in some way. Perhaps instead of being "successful", what many really want is just to be loved, and yet their ambition for success directly threatens that.

Some people can't figure out why they keep choosing the "wrong" relationships, people whose patterns of rejection, abuse, or refusal to commit seem to be consistent. Perhaps they don't realize that they are actually recreating the relationship dynamics they experienced when they were young because they associate love with loss or abandonment. Perhaps they want to recreate family relationships in which they felt helpless, but to live them again as an adult where they can help the addict, the liar, or the broken person.

When it comes to self-sabotaging behaviors, you have to understand that sometimes, it's easy to get attached to having problems.

Making yourself less attractive can guard you. Playing small allows you to avoid scrutiny. Procrastinating puts you back in a place of comfort.

It might seem totally counter-intuitive, but we are not really wired to be happy; we are wired to be comfortable, and anything that is outside of that realm of comfort feels threatening or scary until we are familiar with it.

Don't worry about failing, just keep showing up and trying. At first, all that matters is that you do what you really want to do. From there, you can learn from your mistakes and over time get to the place where you really want to be.

The truth is that we actually do not accomplish great feats when we are anxious about whether or not what we do will indeed be something impressive and world-changing. We accomplish these sorts of things when we simply show up and allow ourselves to create something meaningful and important to us.

Your life is ultimately measured by your outcomes, not your intentions. It is not about what you wanted to do or would have done but didn't have the time. It's not about why you thought you couldn't; it's just whether or not you eventually did.

It is very hard to show up as the person you want to be when you are surrounded by an environment that makes you feel like a person you aren't.

Sometimes, we fight endlessly to try to force ourselves to want something that we do not really want, and it always leaves us empty, because it isn't a genuine desire.

When you find yourself struggling with something, you have to ask yourself: Do I actually want to do this? Do you want the job, or do you just like how the title sounds? Are you in love with the person, or do you like the idea of the relationship? Are you still holding an outdated idea of what your greatest success will be, and if so, what would it look like to let that go?

We do not have to live the rest of our lives trying to achieve some measure of success we thought was ideal when we were too young to understand who we even were. Our only responsibility is to make decisions for the person we have become.

When we set up judgements for others, they become rules that we have to play by, too.

In the end, it looks far worse to hold onto what's wrong because you care about what others think than it is to let go because that's what's right for you. People will respect you far more if you can acknowledge that you are an imperfect person – like everyone else – learning, adapting, and trying your best.

One of the biggest mental barriers people face is the guilt that comes with finally having enough or more than one needs. This can come from many different sources, but it ultimately boils down to feeling as though you "don't deserve" to have it.

When it comes to success, guilt is an unfortunately common emotion, especially for good-hearted people who want to do the right thing and live authentic lives.

What you have to realize is that money and success are tools. They buy you back time and offer you the opportunity to help, employ, influence, and change the lives of others. Instead of looking at your success as a status differentiator – which will always make you feel bad and uncomfortable – see it instead as a tool with which you can do important and positive things in the world and your own life.

When we downplay our successes in life, we are either trying to make ourselves seem less impressive so others do not feel threatened and therefore like us more, or we are trying to avoid the sense that we have "made it", because we are afraid of peaking.

If the fear is that we are "peaking" too soon, we have to reform our idea of progress. We do not get better only to get worse again. We do not achieve one thing only to lose it and return to what we were before. That instinct is a self-sabotaging behavior, one that wants to keep us within our old comfort zone.

(...) when one part of our life improves, it radiates out to everything else. When we achieve one thing, we are better equipped for the future. Life tends to gradually get better as we keep working on it; it only gets worse if we accomplish something then shut down because we are intimidated by our own power.